I want to tell you a story. A story that so many women and young girls can relate to. Growing up in an environment where those close to you are usually the ones that hurt you the most. On a subject as sensitive as our hair, when a man in your life tells you your hair looks ugly. The hair God gave you, as if God could create something ugly. When someone as important as your father, someone who is suppose to be the ONE man that makes you feel special and beautiful, tells you that your hair is ugly or looks like Brillo…..it’s hurtful.
I came across a video of Lauren Holley, a young girl very emotional after being criticized by her father for wearing her natural hair.
Lauren Holley is like so many of us who have been told we are ugly by those who are supposed to love us. Society tells us enough that our hair, our skin, our minds aren’t good enough to be valued. We do not need those in our own households or communities to shame us for something we are born with and quite frankly don’t even affect them. We should ask them………How does my hair affect your life?
The men in our communities need to wake up and realize that they are part of the fabric and if they destroy one part of the fabric then the beauty of the garment will be unraveled. It’s our job, men and women of our communities, to preserve the beauty of our culture.
We are black. We are beautiful. We are smart. We are worthy. We are all children of God. And we rock natural beautiful afro-kinky hair.
Check out Lauren Holley’s emotional reaction to her father criticizing her hair.
What do you think? I’d love to hear your feedback.